MYTHS AND FACTS ABOUT LGBT
1. Myth: LGBT persons are mentally ill.
Fact: The Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (DSM) of Mental Disorders brought out by the American Psychiatric Association is considered a universal authority for psychiatric diagnoses. In 1973, they removed homosexuality from its list of mental disorders and declared that homosexuality is as healthy as heterosexuality.
The World Health Organization’s ICD-9 (International Statistical Classification of Diseases and Related Health Problems) had also listed homosexuality as a mental illness in 1977, but it was removed from the ICD-10, endorsed by the Forty-Third World Health Assembly in 1990.
However, LGBT people, along with people who have diverse gender identities and sexual orientation or whose behavior is not considered normal, can become maladjusted when they are treated with hostility.
2. Myth: Being LGBT is unnatural and abnormal.
Fact: This myth is pinned on the belief that all sexual relationships are formed for the procreation of children. The fact is that while there are heterosexual couples who decide to have children, there are many who do not choose to do so and instead choose to engage in sexual activities that do not lead to procreation. There are also some couples who, for some reason, cannot have biological children.
Moreover, we need to question what we consider natural and unnatural. Are the cars we drive or the air conditioners we use natural?
There is no fixed definition of normal. What one person considers perfectly normal might be found to be extremely abnormal in another city, culture, country, by a different group of people, or in a different era. For instance, 50 years ago, girls pursuing higher education was not considered entirely normal in many cultures, but in 2017 it is perfectly normal for girls to be high school graduates or even be a Ph.D.
3. Myth: It is very easy to spot LGBT people. They flaunt their sexuality when they talk about their partner, hold hands, or kiss one another in public (especially gay men). You can always tell homosexuals by the way they look or act.
Fact: Human beings come in all shapes and sizes and have diverse preferences. There is no easy way to determine who likes whom or what. For instance, we can find out about someone’s food preferences or taste in films only by their choosing to share that information. Similarly, there is no accurate way to find out someone’s sexual orientation or sexual desires except for when they share with us about it.
However, because of homophobia, not many lesbian, bisexual, or gay people come out about their sexual orientations in the open. Besides, some who are not LGBT might also choose to look or act in ways that are not considered normal.
4. Myth: LGBT persons are promiscuous.
Fact: Same-sex desiring persons or those who deviate from sexual and gender norms are neither more nor less sexually promiscuous (engaging with multiple partners) than those who do not. Like heterosexual people, many LGBT people are involved in monogamous relationships and are committed to each other. Some LGBT people may also choose to remain celibate or might be asexual, and others may have multiple partners. This is similar to heterosexual people whose sexual life and preferences we cannot know about till they tell us.
5. Myth: If a friend tells you they are LGBT, then that friend is coming on to you/hitting on you.
Fact: When friends or someone who trusts you ‘come out’ (reveals their sexual orientation, or gender identity in case of trans people) to you, they are essentially inviting you to know them better. If an LGBT person chooses to come out to you, that person has decided to share a part of their identity with you. Such disclosure only means that this friend trusts you.
6. Myth: Having LGBT people in your friend circle or workplace will make you LGBT.
Fact: Liking or loving someone is not contagious. Spending time with people who are LGBT does not make you LGBT any more than liking someone who is left-handed or is tall or short.
7. Myth: Early sexual experiences are indicative of one’s sexual orientation as an adult, and LGBT people are abused in their childhood.
Fact: Many lesbian, gay, and bisexual people in pursuit of their sexual orientation may have heterosexual experiences, similar to many heterosexual people who may have homosexual experiences. Sexual activity per se does not make you lesbian, bisexual, or gay. Feeling comfortable with and identifying with that sexual activity, identity, or orientation may determine it.
8. Myth: We know what causes homosexuality and transgender identity and working on that can reverse these.
Fact: Many LGBT people may know that they are attracted to members of their own gender, or that they identify as another gender, at an early age. Sometimes they may know when they are older, or when they are much, much older and well into their lives. There is no appropriate/right age to start identifying as LGBT.
There are various studies, research, and opinions to determine what causes someone to be homosexual or identify as a gender other than what they were assigned at birth but these are all possibilities. There is no definitive theory or text that can tell us what causes particular orientations or makes your gender identity.
9. Myth: In a same-sex relationship, one partner (usually the one who is more masculine) plays the role of the husband and the other (more feminine) partner plays the role of the wife.
Fact: Within the heterosexual community, there are all types of relationships, and people perform all kinds of domestic/romantic/sexual roles in a relationship. This is true in same-sex relationships as well.
Some people, both heterosexual and homosexual, perform roles that are commonly associated with their gender identity, and it could take precedence over what they may actually prefer doing. There are, however, many couples and people of all sexual orientations and gender identities who believe that people should have the freedom to live roles or do things they like doing rather than what’s associated with their gender identity.
10. Myth: Same-sex relationships/marriage will lead to polygamy, pedophilia, people wanting to marry their dogs or the end of the world.
Fact: Homosexual relationships/marriages are no more likely to lead to such issues than heterosexual marriages. There is no logical link between same-sex relationships/marriage and pedophilia or polygamy. Marriage/people deciding to love or be with other people should be an association between consenting people (and not forced).
11. Myth: LGBT culture is a non-Indian, Western concept, and we must oppose it.
Fact: There are several instances of sexual relationships mentioned in our own Indian culture – be it in old architecture or in literature. For instance, there are mentions of same-sex relationships in the Kama Sutra and in architecture like Khajuraho.
When we are accepting of Western or other cultures in certain aspects of our lives such as food, clothes, and language, it isn’t logical that when it comes to issues of beliefs and attitudes with regard to desire and sexuality we struggle in accepting other worldviews.